I rant a lot on here because on facebook you get to many options and I dont want to fill up the news feed with my complaints. (Im not a big fan of daycare, its more understanding when there is one parent though)
Today's rant is about the neighbors across the hall. The dad works nights and the mom works days. They have two girls 2 years old and a 5 years old. So with both parents working the girls must go to daycare. They get home just before 5 every week day. Then Ty started getting home very early in the morning I noticed that the kids leave for day care at 5:30am. 11 hours of daycare... So when they come in the girls especially the youngest are very loud and usually getting yelled at for this or that or something random thing. I always think really you are with them what? 2 hours a day and you spend that time yelling at them. So today the mom comes in with them, the older girl was scuffing her feet. The mom in a very mean yelling voice says "stop scuffing your feet" which leads to the little one making screaming noises (in my opinion because here mom in yelling) the mom then says "that is not polite" to the little one. Really, it seems to me that a nice please do not scuff your feet or can I help you with your shoes so you are not scuffing your feet would have solved the problem and not cause the loud commotion that happened. I may not have included that they come in very loud everyday.
I guess I am a fan of a gentle voice. Is there really a need to raise your voice? I know some people feel the need to use a stern voice with their problem children but in the end they are still problem children. Maybe that fear they get from a mean voice encourages misbehavior. What about respect? As adults do you like it when someone yells at you? does it make you a little hardhearted towards that person.
I follow the Duggars (19 Kids and Counting) yes it is a TV show and for show but the children are so good on camera. To get 19 kids a daughter in law 2 grandbabies 2 parents and a grandma under control (and sometimes crazy cousin Amy and when the Bates visit with their 18 kids) they must be doing something right. They believe in using a quiet voice. Michelle Duggar (mom) has said something in the way of the kids know the quieter I talk the madder I am. Also that using a soft voice helps prevent anger that you will regret later.
Yep so that is my little rant about not yelling at kids that started as a rant about my annoying neighbors. I think using a soft voice to correct children is more beneficial.
I totally agree... I am so surprised by parents who spend all day away from their children only to then just yell at them when they are around. Teaching high school, I see how jaded those kids get by their parents who aren't around to even care or raise them. SO sad!
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